Overcoming - Criticism #5

       

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 First off, "one way that I know Overcoming Criticism can be achieved is because Famous People do it every day". And that was the exact thought that made me just get over it. Getting over criticism or the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes (actual definition from Google), in my opinion, plays a major role in being able to live and be free and enjoy it. Let me explain why.

         I think back to one of my favorite books, "The Four Agreements". This book explains how we ourselves have created the laws that we govern life by, but were introduced by outside sources. These laws are often created and influenced by parents, religion, school, or society, but not by our own self. The reason that we chose to carry these laws is mostly due to the fear of others' opinions of your decision. Or something that someone said in reference to you that you chose to hold on to as truth. Most times, it is not necessarily even true. Or, not an act of how you may really currently feel. We just continue to do these things because going against the grain may cause too much friction and may sometimes make things worse. Right?

           Now, as always, I can only give you my opinion from my own experience. That same book also goes on to explain how to break free from all the laws we abide by in our lives that are from outward influences from childhood and up through life. How to change our actions to express what we truly believe inside and to abide by ONLY what WE deem. And that is the beginning of becoming conscience to me. Knowing that your own Soul exists and trusting it. Knowing that everyone here lives according to their own soul's opinions, as do you. But if you govern yourself by what you feel inside (whether you say it's your conscience, spirit guide, or holy spirit) and that only, you are always going to be right. Because everything you experience is always beneficial to you, whether it's a lesson or love, it will always add to your true life's purpose. On the other hand, if you try to impose your opinions on someone else's journey, it probably won't end up as a match. And the same goes for if someone imposed their opinions (according to their life/journey) on you.

       According to the Harvard Business Review, we need five positive comments for every negative one we experience. For those who end up divorced, the ratio was 0.77 to 1-or something like three positive comments for every 4 negative ones.) Clearly, in work and life, both negative and positive feedback have their place and their time. Surely a good way to Overcome Criticism is to quickly find the love or the lesson in it and govern yourself. For example, when I first opened Heart of Hair, I was 100% on my own. I wanted to make sure I would succeed, so I reviewed ways to achieve great Customer Service. In reviewing that, I also reviewed what others often said of me. I have heard before and do believe that if several people are saying the same thing about you (especially if these people are personally disconnected/strangers) then there is likely to be some truth to it. I know that previously, from behind the chair, I was doing my client's hair while standing behind a personal wall. I didn't care for many conversations and prided myself on completing styles on my clients in the shortest manner. Which required less socializing. Regardless of how I previously ran things, to succeed, I had to be more social. I worked on it, and in addition to always personally greeting those who entered, I also engaged politely in conversation on a personal level with my clients. This aided in the overall success and high customer service standards of my salon. I could have taken criticism and shut down, and just used the excuse that that's just who I am. Instead, I took the lesson from the customer service knowledge I gained and made necessary changes that geared my salon trajectory for success and even added an aspect of social balance into my lifestyle.
          I was headed in the right direction before this change. Looking back, the way I previously operated was very conducive to what I was doing at the time. But naturally, what I was desiring, to broaden my business and remain successful, required me to make personal changes that would accommodate my goals. Changes that propelled me to the next level. So, how exactly do you get over someone else having and voicing a negative opinion about something you decided? Knowing that the outcome that you're expecting to show up based on your own decision and based on your personal guidance system is secure and way more beneficial than anything someone else can come up with based on their own opinion. It's that simple. Live like their opinion doesn't affect you. Laugh that they've wasted their time on those ill thoughts, words, or actions. And move on like the breeze, easy and free.

- Always Overcoming

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