Overcoming - Time #9

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    When I decided to move forward in my previous marriage with the decision to separate, my initial reason was Time. I was so bothered with all my "wasted time" &/or all the "Time I put in". I had looked back, and over a decade had passed, and I felt like not much progression had occurred. For some reason, when we are in the present, the moment, the now, we don't have a tight connection with time. It's just what we are doing at the moment. But eventually, after some Time has elapsed, we look back and understand exactly how much of it we have used. That seems to be when we can accurately measure that "Time we spent". From my experience, dealing with Time in that way has never been of many benefits. It instead causes grief and regret.

Truth Moment - Time & I have a strenuous relationship. It's so bittersweet. Time is the indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole. It's also a point in time. As measured in hours and minutes past midnight or noon (both Google's definitions). Past time, as I already mentioned, is the one that seemed to affect me the most. I would get so bothered looking back at it. But, we all know, that you can't move forward looking backward at all, right? Fortunately, I was able to use that pain from my past Time to push me to make things better for myself moving forward. The unfortunate part is that not everyone gets to handle things that way. The past affects us all differently (and I completely accept/respect that).

Sometimes I feel like Time is on my side. I'm pretty good with organization and scheduling. Most of that is due to my attention to Time in detail. I typically plan everything I have to do around timing. When I have something to do the first thing I do is pull up Google Maps and see how long it's going to take me to get there, and of course, to get back. I estimate (according to the activity/event) how long it will take, or I simply ask. Like, when I schedule an appointment, I ask for an estimated duration time. Just so I can have an idea of how long I'd be there. (Never be afraid to ask if you need to; all professionals know how long whatever they do takes-"Time is money") Sounds too OCD? Well, here's why.
I highly value my time! I can't recall when I became like this or what I learned that made me this way. But, I Honor & Value my Time as well as everyone else's.
We all have someone (maybe a few) in our environment that we know is always going to be late. Maybe that person is You. Sometimes those people somehow make it to work on time and are late for everything else. They probably often manage their Time according to only their personal priorities. Moving with passion for only the things they directly/immediately benefit from. Or, those who are late to just everything. They probably naturally have a struggle with organization in general. And, both can be frustrating for those personally experiencing it.

So, for those of us who have a roller-coaster relationship with Time, the question should be How Do We Manage It? There are so many ways modernization has been created to help us with our Time Management. There are apps for scheduling and pocket planners, and we even get a free assistant with every smartphone. Siri sets all my alarms!

For me, to conquer time and wade in its essence, I had to learn to respect it in its current state. Learn to be in its presence. Learn to be Present. The word "Present" means what is existing or occurring now (Google's definition). Only now! I know it's a cliche when you hear "you should be more present," but it holds much truth. All the great leaders of the past gave their followers tools to use for quieting the mind. They taught some form of training to stop the mind momentarily from wandering to the past or worrying about the future. This is called mindfulness. Be still and mindful of nothing but You. Scientifically, giving the brain moments of rest in this way improves its overall function (you can research that more on your own). The past and future are major stressors for most. It's known that the present holds the most peace. We call this enjoying the moment. Better yet, fully experiencing the moment. If we make an effort to enjoy the things we are actively doing, it puts us in a better space to value that Time, appreciate all we have, and develop a mind of gratitude. Being in the moment has definitely helped me to notice more of the simple things and appreciate them. Most times when we do stop to say Thanks, it's about the obvious. The big stuff. We normally get actively grateful for something minor once it's not currently available. We should practice appreciating our Time more. One thing about Time is that more of it is not promised. That alone should help us build more appreciation for the Time that we currently have. It can also make you look at the past from a different perspective. Be able to accept what it has taught us and move forward. So let's Cherish Time More! Take more Time out for yourself. Be greedy with your Time. Don't give it all away to negativity. That'd be wasting it. Rather, give more to yourself first, then family, good friends only, and all of the things that matter. Those things aid in our Destiny. Be intentional with your Time!

-Always Overcoming

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