Season #2: Gratitude

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Looking back on my journey of Healing & to Self the one thing that started this productive trajectory for me was Gratitude. 

Starting a daily Gratitude Journal was the first step I took when I wanted to change my life. I was in a space of research and had learned many ways I could add to my life that would improve it. Gratitude intrigued me due to its simplicity. Finding space in my day to write 10 things I was grateful for felt so easy. I started this sitting in my salon before the first client showed up. 

Most of our first memories of giving gratitude is from the grace we were taught to give before each meal. The moment we pause to tell God how great he is, and that the thought of this makes our food pure enough to eat. 

Find that space again! That space alone IS a Door To Healing!

- Love YourSELF

MissY

Season #2 Mindfulness

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    Hey there, welcome back to Season 2! If you're here, this means that you can benefit from some information on ways that you can achieve balance & become more mindful. To upgrade your mindset to be capable of manifesting the life you desire. Mindfulness is very much needed in our lives today. It creates the space for us to have a pure connection with our true (inner) selves—the connection we need to know our purpose in life. If you're here, you are ready to start #OVERCOMING! 

Here is the who, what, when, where, and why. A little background info to get us started on the right track. 

Who - Anyone who finds themselves distracted from their true purpose in life, or wonders what their life's purpose even is. Anyone who has experienced trauma or situations in life that hinder their progression in any area of life family, work, relationships, etc. For anyone wanting to discover the truth about themselves. 

What - Put simply, Mindfulness is being fully aware of yourself. Everyone's individual life/journey is a sum of the things we have experienced. 

-We are products of our environment -We are creatures of habit. 

Practicing mindfulness gives us that space to establish awareness. Awareness of how/why we respond to things (in other words, how we feel about things) in our current life's space. This is frequently a residual effect of an experience from the past. When you have that space of awareness, you create a personal environment where you can learn and make a decision to change your responses to future events as they occur. Thus bringing in a trajectory for a better life/environment/mental space, causing more positive reactions to things regardless of what happens. Ultimately leading to a better overall experience! Side note- so if you have any level of issues with anger, then this practice is also good for you. 

When- At any time! I like to start in the morning. I have it on my list as the first thing of the day I do after brushing my teeth. I had to adjust my schedule and wake up a few minutes earlier to do this. I just recently added some space to practice mindfulness at noon, so I'm on it twice a day! Before bed is good as well. But, any time of day is an excellent time to take a moment to get in touch with yourSelf. To clear your mind of all the world's chatter and just be. 

Where- Since this is something that you want to practice often (because "practice creates discipline"), you want to choose a space that can always be available whenever you are ready. Find a quiet area with no distractions and, if possible, with no noise. Eventually, you'll be able to practice almost anywhere at any time because it is a mental practice. Whatever area you choose, make sure in the beginning stages of practicing to use this same space every time. In doing this, you will train your mind to get ready to relax as soon as you head toward that area. 

Why- When you pay attention on purpose, there is a level of awareness that arises in your experience. Just like when you are in the phases of learning something (take education, for example). When we clear away other thoughts and focus on what's being taught, we can absorb that knowledge. Conversely, we can not absorb that knowledge if we are distracted. Thinking about our relationships or parent issues, our own failures/struggles are all examples of how we can be distracted from absorbing something new. We have to be fully present at that moment to lock in the information. Having a connection with ourselves through mindfulness allows us the time and space to quiet everything else in the world that is happening and simply focus on Us (ourselves). And in return, we learn about ourselves. Of our True Self!

How- Obtaining such a connection with ourselves is achieved by taking some moments every day to be alone and/or alone with our thoughts. Society currently (& always) has us so distracted from ourselves. This is easy to do because we crave things to comfort us. We want to ignore hurt and enjoy comfort. So, to capitalize on us, they just create so many things that keep us distracted. We easily attach to them because they provide that instant feeling of comfort by causing the brain to relax. (another topic for another time) So, giving yourself this allotted time to break the cycle of subconscious actions, which are those habitual schedules and habits, focusing on yourself, begins to build a more inward connection than a worldly one. Thus, exposing more of your true self to yourself. Allowing you to become a being of that inner guidance rather than a product of all outside factors. Even beginning a new trust system with yourself. 

This should be enough information for you to get started on the journey to becoming more Mindful. More Mindful of self.

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Overcoming-Hair #10

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    When it comes to my Hair, I've been through (most of) it all. My hair became my own responsibility starting young. I had this natural ability to see a style that I liked and could duplicate it, without help, on myself or on others. I say that my Hair journey began around 10 or 11 years old. That's the age I began to do my Mom's and her friend's hair. The "French Roll" was the first style I started doing. I used to stuff it with an old sweat sock. Then I moved on to use skills I learned when I was younger, like putting rollers on wet hair extensions and microwaving them dry to get curls fast. I was unstoppable once I learned I could teach myself hairstyles. There was no YouTube back then. I had to learn from my imagination. I loved it! Everything about hair. I loved it and I learned it all!

 And then it happened. Our great altercation. The moment that negated my belief that I could always manipulate my hair to suit my needs. Look how I want, conform to my tools, and obey. And, no, I'm not even talking about the grey hair. That was a warm-up lesson. I'm talking bout hair loss.
A few months after I officially decided to separate from my previous marriage, the stress I carried was too much of a force on my hair. So, it did its own thing and quit. I lost a section of hair the size of the palm of my hand. I ended up rocking my edgiest cut, keeping only the top section of my hair, and everything else was bald. I got so much attention and compliments on that hairstyle, like I was a mainstream Rock Star! But deep inside, I hated it, and I hated that it was so short. I had worn short cuts before. This one hurt solely because it wasn't my choice. And, when I went to the Doctor, there was no explanation except "stress".
Then, it happened again, two years later (while separating again-yes I went back), the same thing. In addition, I also gained allergies to things that were imperative for my Cosmetology career. Hair color, Relaxers, and even Synthetic Hair were showing up, saying that they didn't like me either. Burns, rashes, face/lip swelling, and the list goes on. I never gave up. I just stuck to a simple hair routine, and it eventually grew back. Even though it came back with more grey than ever, I managed it well as I went through a great time of my life. I was in my early 30s, separated (for real this time), learning more about the world, making changes to my life, and doing things I never dared (against the way I grew up), but having great experiences from it all! I was doing my own hair. Consistently deep conditioning it, blow drying it, and styling (either my own hair flat ironed or a cute weave). From that commitment, my hair grew stronger again.

My best hair experience started back in 2018. I had gotten married and decided to move to Florida. Two nights before we left, I saw a video of someone with the same wet hair texture as I have, transforming their hair into a beautiful "wash-n-go" curly style. It looked so beautiful to me, and I was amazed by how my natural hair could look, so I wanted to try it. Wanted to try "going Natural," that is. I had done Natural Styles before (of course) plenty of times throughout my life. But the thought of using all that time daily to style my natural hair seemed like too much for me. But once I saw that video, I decided to go for it! I got the idea to take my power back from previously losing my hair by shaving it off myself on purpose. So I took clippers, parted out the top of my hair (since I liked that style previously), and shaved everything else. This was absolutely just as empowering as it sounds! I felt free, got plenty of compliments, and most importantly, loved my hairstyle. This was the beginning of the great relationship my hair and I have now. Now, I'm entirely natural (in the full sense of the word). It's been 15 months since I've used heat, and continue with another natural hair regimen. This time, I wash and deep condition weekly with co-washing and protective styles in between. Miraculously, my hair has grown the longest and healthiest it has ever been.
So, the question still stands. How do we Overcome this Hair?  I'd say by learning it. It wasn't until I became fully aware of how to take care of my hair and what it needed in its natural state that it became not only the healthiest but, the easiest ever to manage. Yes, you will have Hair experiences along the way that don't go perfectly or that even cause damage. But never give up on your hair. It is your crown! Learn about your own texture, heritage, and family's hair history. There's so much information out there now that breaks down all the useful products for your specific hair type. Whatever your hair status is, be comfortable, content, and confident. Your hair will love you, and it will show!

-Always Overcoming

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Overcoming - Time #9

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    When I decided to move forward in my previous marriage with the decision to separate, my initial reason was Time. I was so bothered with all my "wasted time" &/or all the "Time I put in". I had looked back, and over a decade had passed, and I felt like not much progression had occurred. For some reason, when we are in the present, the moment, the now, we don't have a tight connection with time. It's just what we are doing at the moment. But eventually, after some Time has elapsed, we look back and understand exactly how much of it we have used. That seems to be when we can accurately measure that "Time we spent". From my experience, dealing with Time in that way has never been of many benefits. It instead causes grief and regret.

Truth Moment - Time & I have a strenuous relationship. It's so bittersweet. Time is the indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole. It's also a point in time. As measured in hours and minutes past midnight or noon (both Google's definitions). Past time, as I already mentioned, is the one that seemed to affect me the most. I would get so bothered looking back at it. But, we all know, that you can't move forward looking backward at all, right? Fortunately, I was able to use that pain from my past Time to push me to make things better for myself moving forward. The unfortunate part is that not everyone gets to handle things that way. The past affects us all differently (and I completely accept/respect that).

Sometimes I feel like Time is on my side. I'm pretty good with organization and scheduling. Most of that is due to my attention to Time in detail. I typically plan everything I have to do around timing. When I have something to do the first thing I do is pull up Google Maps and see how long it's going to take me to get there, and of course, to get back. I estimate (according to the activity/event) how long it will take, or I simply ask. Like, when I schedule an appointment, I ask for an estimated duration time. Just so I can have an idea of how long I'd be there. (Never be afraid to ask if you need to; all professionals know how long whatever they do takes-"Time is money") Sounds too OCD? Well, here's why.
I highly value my time! I can't recall when I became like this or what I learned that made me this way. But, I Honor & Value my Time as well as everyone else's.
We all have someone (maybe a few) in our environment that we know is always going to be late. Maybe that person is You. Sometimes those people somehow make it to work on time and are late for everything else. They probably often manage their Time according to only their personal priorities. Moving with passion for only the things they directly/immediately benefit from. Or, those who are late to just everything. They probably naturally have a struggle with organization in general. And, both can be frustrating for those personally experiencing it.

So, for those of us who have a roller-coaster relationship with Time, the question should be How Do We Manage It? There are so many ways modernization has been created to help us with our Time Management. There are apps for scheduling and pocket planners, and we even get a free assistant with every smartphone. Siri sets all my alarms!

For me, to conquer time and wade in its essence, I had to learn to respect it in its current state. Learn to be in its presence. Learn to be Present. The word "Present" means what is existing or occurring now (Google's definition). Only now! I know it's a cliche when you hear "you should be more present," but it holds much truth. All the great leaders of the past gave their followers tools to use for quieting the mind. They taught some form of training to stop the mind momentarily from wandering to the past or worrying about the future. This is called mindfulness. Be still and mindful of nothing but You. Scientifically, giving the brain moments of rest in this way improves its overall function (you can research that more on your own). The past and future are major stressors for most. It's known that the present holds the most peace. We call this enjoying the moment. Better yet, fully experiencing the moment. If we make an effort to enjoy the things we are actively doing, it puts us in a better space to value that Time, appreciate all we have, and develop a mind of gratitude. Being in the moment has definitely helped me to notice more of the simple things and appreciate them. Most times when we do stop to say Thanks, it's about the obvious. The big stuff. We normally get actively grateful for something minor once it's not currently available. We should practice appreciating our Time more. One thing about Time is that more of it is not promised. That alone should help us build more appreciation for the Time that we currently have. It can also make you look at the past from a different perspective. Be able to accept what it has taught us and move forward. So let's Cherish Time More! Take more Time out for yourself. Be greedy with your Time. Don't give it all away to negativity. That'd be wasting it. Rather, give more to yourself first, then family, good friends only, and all of the things that matter. Those things aid in our Destiny. Be intentional with your Time!

-Always Overcoming

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Overcoming - Expectations #8

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     In my opinion (of course, this all is), the best way to Overcome Expectations is to clearly state them. And, to clearly state them as early as possible. Unfortunately, that is the part about them that we, most of the time, completely skip over. An Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future. Or, that someone will or should achieve something. (both Google's definition)
      I had my closest encounter with Expectations a few years ago. I can't remember exactly what I listened to, or what I read/heard, but it opened up my eyes completely. In my separation (from my previous marriage), I did a lot of what I'm calling personal/self-work. Did some major Soul searching. It was like I had this major epiphany one day. For some years, I was mad, disappointed, and hurt over things not turning out the way that I had expected them to. Before entering into every situation, marriage, relationship, etc., we have this image in our head of what we expect things to be like. A preconceived idea of what would be the right way for things to go. As time went on, more things kept happening that started to brew up feelings of failure. This is what I realized - Over time, I inwardly became disappointed over failed Expectations. The reason this happened is that, in the beginning, I failed to be clear about what I was expecting. If you fail to state what it is that you are expecting, how can someone fully meet your Expectations? That's like someone getting a new job. Then, they get fired for something they were never even told about. It's completely unfair! So Unfair that they now have programs (like Unemployment Comp) to aid with that. So, how come we don't apply this in our personal lives? We often have bouts of not talking to our friends over something they did, but in reality, we never told them they couldn't do it. OK, I'll give it a chance-Maybe they did something that offended you. You let it go. Then they do it again! That's because you didn't put your limits/boundaries out there, available for people to know what you expect in your surroundings. 
     I am clear that communication is difficult for most at times. But hopefully (if not already), you soon get to a place where speaking up for yourself is a priority. I'm not saying you have to always be the one to tell it like it is. But, there is a balance for everything (I'm a Libra, so, of course, I'd say that). Just like there are times to be quiet, there are definitely times to speak up. Sometimes, we are bold in certain areas or topics. What we want to be more mindful of are those areas where our vocal ability is weak. We end up always suffering in silence in that area. Whatever it is. It can be with our kids, relationships, marriages, financially, or anything. Anything that contributes to your well-being/life is a subject we have the right to speak on. Why don't we speak up about our Expectations more?
    Do you actually know what your expectations are? Do you know what you want? In Life? Just, in general, what are your goals? I have always had goals. Since my teenage years. I had clear goals and I stuck to them. I would say I followed my goals regardless of what anyone else thought. But everyone else seemed to agree with me. I was so sure of what I expected to do with my life that everyone around me believed it. I was very vocal about my Expectations! It works out better when you are clear about You. People love to give their opinion. Their point of view on what you should be doing. That's natural. But who cares? It is simply just that, only their "point of view". It's not law, or your path, or deemed to be used as your guide. You have to know for yourself which direction you are trying to go in every area. Be clear about what you expect, then, put in full effort towards it!
  That can take some time to do. Don't expect to wake up tomorrow and just know every single thing you want in every area. However, do take some time and get to know yourself. We have so many daily distractions in the world that separate us from our true selves. Oftentimes, we will have to make a continuous effort to focus and figure out our own path. Most people haven't heard this before, but IT'S OK TO WANT WHAT YOU WANT AND EXPECT WHAT YOU EXPECT! And Only that!
  Growing up, the world around us will teach us that you have to fall in line, complete certain patterns in a certain time, or simply that your inward desire is wrong and you should desire something different (most likely whatever they believe). That can make those of us who know what we expect to feel like our standards are too high. That we should pull back, which most times causes us to settle for something less. It'll make us begin to rethink our own choices. Make you wonder if the things you expect are correct. Well, no one can fully answer that, except You! I'm not claiming that just because you're clear on your Expectations, life will go perfectly. I am saying that having a clear goal will aid in keeping focus and staying true to yourself. My most important point in this would be to share your Expectations with those working close to you. Those who you are expecting things from. Or those with whom you are working on a goal. They need to understand what you expect so they can stay on task as well.
   Especially family! It's better if everyone can be on the same page and working towards the same goal, at least in a few areas. Your family should know what your plans and goals are individually and as a unit. We should also know what our kids expect from us. Not so you can do everything they ask, but for clarity. I know when I was younger, I was watching some things going on with the adults, and I disagreed. I was never able to express that. So knowing a few things (and Expectations) from the kids' view is always helpful as well. (Plus it'll help guide you more on their personality as well. I'm always chatting with my kids. We have to communicate! We must have a clear view of the Expectations pressed upon us as well as the ones we hold most important to Us!
 
In my view, Expectations are not The Blueprints For Disappointment. For me, they are The Foundation For Which All My Goals Begin. My Expectations Precede Me To Greatness. They Set The Standard For All I Attract Into My Life. Love, Friends, Business Opportunities, and the list goes on!

-Always Overcoming

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Overcoming - Sharing #7

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Sharing is caring! That's what we always say, right?

 Lately, through various conversations and a little reality TV (I don't watch much cable), I noticed that the same theme kept showing up for me. I've heard so many stories of young black girls (13 and younger) being sexually abused by a family member. Sorry to start this one off so heavy. But, another thing that stood out in most (if not all) of these situations is that other adults in the house became aware of the abuse and did/said nothing. Another common strand was that these were young ladies who were not growing up at home. They were living with a Grandmother or an Aunt/Uncle.

I felt like I had some dark secrets that I carried around for years. For example, I had an abortion back in '07. It was against my better judgment, but I did it. I never really told anyone. I never even told the ones closest to me at the time because I had done something that went against our family's traditional beliefs. I was embarrassed and scared of what people would say. The few who knew of the pregnancy believed it was a miscarriage. Oddly, after about a week, we never really spoke of it again. Neither did anyone else. I never even told my Mom. Not even my Grandma, my Uncles, or friends (both of my only aunts on both sides are no longer here with us). It was a very hard situation for me that I privately carried around for years.

Then my whole world changed about 3 years ago. I was attending a church service, and my mom was the preacher. It was a good sermon. She talked about being free from your own self-guilt of the past. She mentioned how, for years, she felt like she was a murderer because she had an abortion when she was younger. My feelings that day were indescribable. On one hand, my heart was broken. I knew what it felt like to go through the abortion process. I felt so hurt that she had been through that, and I never knew. On the other hand, I felt so relieved to find out that I wasn't alone. I wished so bad that she had SHARED that with me so long ago. I still never brought this conversation to her, though. It was good enough for me just knowing I wasn't the only one. Her simply Sharing that experience (however it happened), freed me. We chat often, so maybe a conversation will eventually bloom on this topic!

My point is this. WE AS WOMEN/MEN NEED TO SHARE OUR STORIES. With our neighbors, our religious groups, our schools, and even ourselves. We definitely need to share it with our daughters and especially with our sons. I know we don't like to talk about this kind of stuff. But I have a few reasons why we definitely should talk and be more open moving forward:

1. Our children need to know from their own mouths what being violated is. Exactly what it looks like, how it makes you feel, and how it can affect you mentally. They should have some kind of understanding so that they will fight against it being done to them, and also so they won't do it to others. Give them a chance to have this not be an experience of theirs (especially if it's known to be common in your environment).

2. Other women (and men) will hear your story, and it'll give them so much hope. They will see where you are now and know for sure, by your example, that the road ahead can be so much different. 

3. Secrets kill. They cause so many health problems, especially for women. They cause so much UNSPOKEN confusion. Family members don't get along or have these dark attitudes toward siblings or family authority figures, and we don't even know why. We all need peace. Peace of mind. One way to aid in that is to not have so many dark clouds in your thoughts. A secret itself can hold so much power. And, most times, just by verbally speaking your truth, you will overcome and break free from so much.

I recently met a lady (African American) who wrote a book. She was out selling them in front of a store and had her preteen kids with her. I asked her daughter what the book was about, and she shrugged her shoulders. The lady then nicely explained to me how she didn't tell them the book details because it was her personal story from childhood abuse to success, and she didn't want them to know the things that happened to her. Of course, I proceeded to explain how much power she would be giving her sweet little girl by simply sharing her story with her. One way or another, they will learn of all the evils here on this earth just as much as they learn about the pleasures. I would personally just rather be a better guide for my children through my own discussions. 

Once, I was dating this guy. I noticed he was pushing me away, or kind of not letting us move forward. You know how we do that in some way or another. We get a bit comfortable with someone, and then one of our own insecurities pops up. Then that insecurity brings thoughts of "I'm not good enough, or this is too good to be true". So we back up or sometimes shut off. Well, he expressed an experience that he had as a kid and how it still causes him to have certain insecurities about himself. It's just always been that way since his certain experience. I looked at him and said, "Well, I had that same experience when I was younger as well". My point to him was that so many of us have had negative experiences. It's not our fault, and it was out of our control for simply being a kid. That was a groundbreaking moment for us because I think we both were learning that we could not be judged by each other!

4. We should share our past experiences in our relationships. Especially if you're talking about marriage. All of our own personal ways of doing things or our personal opinions of things are due to our experience. It's all a make-up of all the things we have been through.  The way we saw the things done to us and/or around us. The more you know about your partner's background, the more you will understand the way they currently operate. And, the same goes for you. As time goes on in your relationship, you will come across some behavior of your partner that is a problem for you. Once you finally get around to talking about it, I'm sure they'll explain that they exhibit that behavior due to a childhood experience. I know it initially seems problematic to expose your hurtful experiences to someone you have deep feelings for. In fear that it will turn them away. From my experience, It will bring you closer to that person than you ever thought. You'll learn about the things you have in common and grow together. Or, you will compensate, balance, or grow compassion toward them, and then, still,  grow together. Either way, you both win.

My main point is this - The more that we begin to share these sometimes, shameful, hurtful, embarrassing experiences, the more strength we will gain over the experience. Then, when we open up and start to share our past experiences, we get to give strength to others along the way. We can share more with our children and be the ones to break these bad cycles. Break these bad generational curses, as they like to call them. Share, and bring relief to those who are hurt from their experiences in silence. Share, and bring understanding to your loved ones of why you operate the way that you do. Share and give knowledge to a child to make them more aware and knowledgeable! We have a voice, I want us all to use it!

-Always Overcoming

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Overcoming - Stress #6

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Where I am in life right now is very interesting. I indulged in a daily routine that includes working extensively on our family work goals, my own writing endeavors, and actively contributing to the well-being of my mental health (which helps me beat the daily Anxiety). While at the same time, I am still a full-time parent of 3 adolescents and a Wife. Just trying to balance all of that while finally also enjoying the simple pleasures of life. Especially since I am happily married now. But, sometimes, like for everyone, things do tend to get a bit stressful here and there. Sometimes the stress isn't just from daily activity. But also from the pressures that I put on myself in my mind. Or even the pressures that I put just on situations (sometimes past situations), period, in my mind. I know that actively being in whatever role you are currently signed up to be in can all come with some stress factors.

Lately, I have learned the importance of time for myself. We like to call it "Self Love," right? For me, this has traumatically helped me balance my time between Myself and the rest of my life. Including this meant I'd have to add more to my already full daily routine. It meant to add these things, I'd have to fill up the empty space in the day that I had left over. I used to call this my "downtime". This was the space that was between work and going to bed. At the time, I used to just watch television or sit around on my phone. Like I always say, everyone has to have their own "ah-ha" moment. A little while ago, I noticed my anxiety was high, and my mind just never stopped. All the disappointment or worry from all the current stress factors took over. Even at night. I noticed then even if I woke up to just simply go to the bathroom, I would catch myself thinking again and end up awake for longer than expected. Gratefully for me, when I did notice this pattern, I became aware of myself and I decided to take action. I know some people don't seek much help, so I figured I could share some of the ways that I learned to Overcome Stress.

1. Let's start at the beginning. The very first thing that I personally had to do was to get off of so much social media. Granted, I only had FB & IG (which included both personal and business pages-so 5 pages total). But I eventually noticed that every time I got on one specifically, I would keep getting offended. I had cleared my friends' list, which had worked for a while. But then, I kept seeing mutual friends post things that would still include people from my past, and I noticed that my emotions would change upon having to re-experience old emotions. I kept feeling how I felt from a negative past experience all over again. Lesson- the first thing you have to do to eliminate severe stress (especially if it affects your being/soul and overall/mental wellness) is to STOP LOOKING AT IT ON PURPOSE EVERY SINGLE DAY. Social media has such a strong hold on us. We constantly decline to get off thinking that we will miss something, even if it's something that hurts us. Example- Why keep looking at an Ex (from a relationship or friendship) when what you see them doing hurts your feelings? Or even further, makes you regret, feel jealous, etc.  Most of the time, they are faking the funk for the gram anyway. So why bother? That's not an easy step to do, but trust me, it is so freeing. I even got an unexpected plus because it freed up more time in my day and allowed me to focus on something of more importance. This time around, due to business, I did not eliminate the platforms completely. I just kept the one that I felt I had more control over what I could see on my timeline, and also more effective for business, down to just 2 pages, and it makes a big difference.
2. I also began to work on my personal health. I don't really have any health issues, never have (besides having my gall bladder suddenly removed 2 years back). But, of course, with age (I'm 34 ), health things start to arise. Like, I fell earlier this year and haven't yet recovered from the injuries. FYI: As you get older, if you happen to fall, bouncing back is not like it used to be. In addition, I definitely want to lose a few pounds. Nothing major, just 15 for now. I mainly wanted to acquire a healthier lifestyle overall. Getting exercise gives me not only time to work on my body and physical goals, but it also gives my mind time to relax from thinking as well. During my exercise time, I add the time to focus on my breathing and go over some Affirmations for the day as well. I use an Affirmation Playlist from my Spotify account. But you can easily search for some on YouTube as well. Be patient if you begin this. There are so many types and sounds of meditations and affirmations. You may have to listen around until you hear something that specifically resonates with you!

3. Working on any personal goal is always a perfect distraction! Most of the time, when people have a divorce or a life-changing experience, the first thing they do is get in shape. I did years ago when I first separated from my marriage. I wasn't divorced yet, but I lived alone and was open to the idea of dating in the future. So the pregnancy weight that years of unhappiness helped me hold on to, all of a sudden, had to go. But even further than that, work on something tangible for yourSelf, your Future, and your Growth. Go get that raise, Go start that business, Go back to school, Go get a higher license or another Degree, Go climb that ladder higher than you even knew existed, Go make those figures like you do in your Dreams, Go travel and see all the things you see on TV and in the magazines, Go reach those people in your community that you envision helping in your mind, Go show those kids that you can become anything you ever desire. Just go do something that is solely for yourself. After every negative experience, there is always space for a new chance. Take that chance and support yourself. This means that by doing it you feel fulfilled. Like you are walking in your Purpose. It adds to making you feel Happy and Complete.

During my separation (2014), I went back to Cosmetology School for my Teacher's License and then taught for a while. After that, I ended up going to Bartending school as well. Doing that, I had no time to worry about anything but myself. So, Go  Catch That Dream, And Go Occupy Yourself With Something For Yourself. That's The Best Gift You Can Give You. Go Make Your Life Magical!

-Always Overcoming